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Domestic abuse is a pattern of violent behavior (verbal , physical, sexual abuse) that is used to exert control in the relationship

 The CDC reports that more than 1 in 3 women and about 1 in 3 men in the United States experience intimate partner violence in their lifetime. 1 in 3 teens experience dating violence. Those who identify as nonbinary or LGBTQ+ are often even more likely to experience abuse 

Intimate partner violence (IPV) is more than physical abuse. Emotional, psychological, and financial abuse are all forms of IPV & abusive relationships. Yelling, name calling, put downs disguised as jokes, telling you you are "just too sensitive and should get over it" can be signs of emotional abuse.

Initially it may be seemingly innocuous comments: "Oh I see that guy checking you out, its that top you are wearing". "Where are you going and who will you be with?" It can feel like they are interested or even concerned, but quickly it escalates. Therapy for emotional abuse can help you heal.

The honeymoon phase feels amazing and starts almost immediately. Gifts, promises, talk about the future, constant attention are like a drug, but it does not last.  If the cycle has happened in the past, the honeymoon phase will also including blaming "I've never been pushed so far, you need to work on your temper too". 

If you are experiencing this, you are not alone and it is NOT your fault. You are not responsible for the actions of others. Reach out today to get support. larissa@calmingconnection.com

National DV hotline: 800-799-7923 or text START to 88788